Following on from the Family Feud Blog, it got me thinking about the fact that researching the family tree can branch out in all directions but still not include some of the most important people in our lives.
Some friends are for life and the truth is some family come and go…
I’m no different to anyone I know in that I have a few family members that are not blood to me but have been just as close. Like that handful of true life friends that you can count on no matter what the crisis in life.
Some of this group do get a mention in the family tree due to connections of marriage but a small few don’t and this is a great loss to a person’s life story if those connections aren’t recorded.
Many times I have found myself looking at an old marriage certificate or funeral notice that lists people’s names that don’t seem to have any connection to the person I’m researching. It’s apparent from the document that this stranger was more than just a passer-by. Being a witness to a marriage is normally a position held by someone of importance to the couple getting married. Pallbearers or the people that give a eulogy at a funeral also can be lifelong friends rather than that of blood.
So I’m now starting to see that to really record a person’s life in the family tree we may need to cast the net even wider to include the “True Friends”
So did you know that I’m a Twin?
Yes I have a twin brother, he was born first and then 5 years later and to different parents came me…
“How does that work?” You ask!
I have no idea how it works but about 23 years ago I came face to face with my twin and straight away we knew something strange was going on. He starts a sentence and I finish it… We hear something and turn to each other and say….. “Yep, you know exactly what I’m thinking don’t you.”
I was best man at his wedding – He was best man at mine.
Our wives laugh at the things one of us does and the other copies. If I have a dumb idea he will back me all the way to the realisation that, yes, it was a dumb idea, but so what we had fun. If he’s in trouble he never needs to ask for my help… because I’m in the same trouble already.
Everyone should have a twin!
If you don’t have the family connection, don’t let that stop you. I have a few very close friends that don’t need to be blood to be family. Maybe I will blog about them in the future, but through stories I will record them in the tree, so others will know the important role they play in my life.
Don’t forget to record your “True Friends”