No not the BBC TV Show, Really… Who Do You Think You Are?
I’m constantly saying sorry –
- Sorry for information that is wrong!
- Sorry for spelling a person’s name wrong!
- Sorry for including the child’s fathers!
- Sorry for listing a divorce!
- Sorry for including info that only you wanted to have!
- Sorry for ……
You get the idea. Almost everything that we do in family history can and does upset someone, sooner or later.
After 15 years doing the family tree I, like most people out there, have gone through a lot of issues and admittedly made a lot of the common mistakes that most newbies make. I also know that for all the issues and unhappy visitors to the site I get a hell of a lot more happy visitors. For them I keep doing what I’m doing.
So what did I learn over the years?
- Don’t upload all your info to shared sites if you know how to have your own site.
- Always try to remove or make private “living people”
- Anything that seems sensitive requires more thought about how it’s to be presented.
- Always be willing to correct, amend or add to info to help prevent issues.
- Add source entries and links to external source info
- This list goes on and I could keep adding to it…
I can say that after all the time I have been researching, it’s generally only a handful of people that have REAL issues with what is being published online. Some are happy after you explain your point of view and some… well as the saying goes “You can’t please everyone”
Some of the demands that have come through that always cause issues, but that are hard to avoid are:
VISITOR: “You have HIM listed as her father but I want that removed . I don’t like him and don’t want anything to do with him”
BFT: “First up is he the father? If not who is?”
VISITOR: “Yes he is but…. “
BFT: In short – I’m recording genealogy not friendships
VISITOR: “Hi, I noticed you have a lot of info on my Great, Great Grandfather”
BFT: “Yes he is my Great, Great Granduncle – That would make us cousins”
VISITOR: “Yes well I want it removed. I’m doing a book on him and have more info than you”
BFT: Great I look forward to your book but sorry I can’t remove the info.
Delete All Reference to My Family
VISITOR: “Please remove me and all my ancestors from your info now!”
BFT: “What part of it do you want removed?”
VISITOR: “All of it – I never gave permission for you to research my family”
BFT: “Please understand that if I remove it all and then keep researching I will just find it again”
VISITOR: “So stop looking for it”
BFT: “I’m happy to modify it or privatise it but I will not stop researching”
I’m not looking to upset anyone with my research. Most, if not all of the info is found in public domain listings like cemetery, newspaper, census, convict and military records. Anyone that is really looking to find it, can. So why do others find it unacceptable for me to find, collate and format this info in one location ??
If you are one of the people that has benefited from my research and this site, even in the smallest of ways then I have achieved my goal. Please keep coming back for the latest updates.
Try the What’s New page.
On the other hand, if you are someone that feels this is a waste of time, not allowed or even goes against everything you believe – Who Do You Think You Are?
“Just remember that if you do tell me who you think you are, it may get recorded in the family history!”